Too bad some techno-savvy guy like Steve Jobs (God rest his soul) or Bill Gates couldn’t have devised a return-to-sender button for e-mail that would be the snail mail equivalent, to when you want to send a clear message, to a sender of a piece of cyber mail that you don’t want their fucking mail AND you never read it.
The best we have today in cyberspace is filter to trash, or a filter to spam. All that does is just chuck it. But that still lets the sender have the fantasy that you might have read it and then chucked it. Doesn’t send the clear message “Piss off, I didn’t read your shit”
Yeah, you guessed right. Even though I changed my phone numbers because of the filthy message he left on my answering machine. He sent me an email. I’m guessing he must have called, got the message that goes “doo doo doo, we’re sorry, the number you’ve reached is no longer in service.” All he has left is my email as a means of contact. But because of all his hate and venom who’d a thunk he’d want to contact me? HE DUMPED ME FOR FUCKS SAKE.
And you know what’s fucked up?
In contrast to the nasty venomous voice message, of the couple he had just fucked in some seedy motel, he also told me that he wouldn’t talk to me even if it I was dying on my deathbed; THIS email titled,
it went on….
I’m sorry that things have been so harsh over the past few days my best friend.
(his first name)
Talk about a MIND FUCK.
One minute he is an absolute asshole. Then the next minute he is reminding me I am his best friend. So I dial up a recovery partner, the person I feel most comfortable talking with b/c her background closely resembles my own and she says, “A best friend wouldn’t treat you like that would they.” She intuitively knew that my brain started thinking things like ‘what if…….what if he really does miss me……or what if he really has feelings of caring.” So I know to get my ass Straight so I don’t lose the one day of no-contact I have pieced together one painstaking hour at time.
It feels fucked up. It’s this push-pull. I hate you, don’t leave! Or get the fuck out! where do you think you’re going? I don’t want you anymore you disgust me, you’re my best friend.
It makes me question my sanity. Which do I believe? Gaslighting bullshit!!!
This kind of dynamic I have lived for three and a half years. At first it was much more subtle and infrequent. Not nearly as flagrant. Not so obvious. Smaller insults that could barely be perceived as insults. Then it became more and more pronounced but by that time, I was hooked in. Desperate because of my need for love and my lack of self-esteem to seek out his validation, I clung to him harder. Then he instinctively upped the ante. He became more brazen, took more liberties. Gave less and less affection, treating me worse and worse and til finally he knew the exact formula. The exact amount of sadism I could tolerate without “breaking” (suiciding) and keep me bound to him.
But there’s one thing he never anticipated in his neat little fucking equation. The unknown variable.
x= I wanted to get well.
Fuck you mother fucker. Sit and spin, I never responded to his email. Best friends DON’T treat each other than way. I didn’t respond to his email.