Buddha sought to find a solution to the problem of suffering.
He knew that suffering is inevitable. We cannot escape it.
We will all be live, become diseased, and then die.
Suffering by his definition was more “dissatisfaction”, caused by our own mind. This dissatisfaction stems from our desires. Our desires stem from our senses and passions. Touch, smell, sight, hearing, taste. Our emotional world, what drives us towards something. Put another way, desires can become out of balance and become problematic: GLUTTONY, GREED, SLOTH , ENVY, WRATH, PRIDE, LUST and the list goes on……..
Therefore suffering has a cause, our mind causes our suffering, the way we look at things and the way we allow them to become out of balance.
Therefore we free ourselves of suffering, and the way out of is to make careful choices about our desires. Find a way to live with our desires, not wipe them out, nor indulge them.
Neither a hedonistic pleasure spree, not an ascetic renunciant, but a balanced middle way of life.
A state of serenity and peace from suffering, as I am learning, can be found in the practice of meditation and becoming mindful.
An ancient poem counsels,
“Like an archer,
the wise man
steadies his trembling mind;
a fickle and restless weapon.”
“The only gate is now, pay attention to now, to the present moment. the doorway to peace is your own body and mind. There’s nowhere to go, there’s nothing else to be, there’s no destination, it’s not something to aim for in the afterlife, it’s simply the quality of THIS moment.”- Jane Hirshfield- Poet
“Just this……just this……this room where you are, pay attention to that, pay attention to who is there, pay attention to what is known there, pay attention to what isn’t known there, pay attention to what everyone is thinking and feeling, what you are doing there, PAY ATTENTION.” – W S Merwin – Poet
It takes time to comprehend this, by practicing again and again, the practitioner becomes very balanced and one reaches a state of very strong equanimity; equanimity towards physical and mental objects. And this is the base camp for the summit.”- Venerable Bhaddamanika
“By practicing meditation, one can come to terms with the roiling thoughts, passions and desires by paying attention to them. Becoming mindful.” – Richard Gere
Lord knows my mind is full of perseveration, obsession and negativity. I have enough bitterness and resentment that is eating at me, mostly about him. I find it showing up in my dreams at night if I am able to repress it during the day. My ex has been coming to me in my dreams since I have been ceasing communications and my compulsions and rituals, I wonder when it will stop. I hate that he still has power over me even while I sleep. Although raised in a strict Roman Catholic home, I am not myopic enough that I am unwilling to explore other faiths. That has already been a lifelong process for me. Certainly, I find myself in a place of turmoil at present. I know who my God is and who I pray to every night. However, the practice of taming the mind is Universal and is open to all. I am going to try to embrace the practice. I think it will be a great adjunct to therapy and 12 steps meetings.